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By Joan LeFebvre
Parents often feel guilty and distressed about their child's natural reaction
to a separation and may unwittingly prolong and reinforce a separation
reaction. There are two ways in which a parent can go wrong here: By leaving
too soon and by not leaving soon enough. You walk a fine line, and choosing
the perfect moment to make your move can be tricky. But whatever you do,
be sure to say goodbye. Don't just sneak out as soon as your child's attention
is diverted. On the other hand, don't linger. Reassure your preschooler
through your words and your actions that everything will be fine in your
absence and that you will come back for him soon.
calm and consistent.
By KidsHealth (The Nemours Foundation)
Create an exit ritual during which you say a pleasant, loving, and firm
goodbye. Stay calm and show confidence in your child. Reassure him or
her that you'll be back - and explain how long it will be until you return
using concepts kids will understand (such as after lunch) because your
child can't yet understand time. Give him or her your full attention when
you say goodbye, and when you say you're leaving, mean it; coming back
will only make things worse.